Why your personal and professional development must go hand in hand
Are you failing to hit the mark in your professional life right now? Maybe it feels like despite your best intentions things are just not clicking for you.
Well this could be a sign that your personal development has come to a standstill and you’ve got some homework to do.
Many of us work hard at developing a particular area of our lives. The results are by no means instant and we constantly face challenges, but press through, assured that if we just keep going-just keep working it, we will succeed. However in our tunnel vision, it is easy to become unbalanced in our approach to personal and professional development. I’ll try and explain why
I’m going to assume that all reading here have passion driven goals for your future. Grandiose plans for success in business, or ambitions to up your pay grade and status on your job. Maybe you even dream of becoming head of the board someday?
Where your career plans are focused right now, is not the point. This may sound quite harsh, but as an avid observer, I’ve noticed that it’s of no consequence what area of commerce or business any individual succeeds in, they all seem to have common traits. So it doesn’t really matter what you do, what matters is – who you are and how you live.
High achievers take a disciplined, strategic approach to being successful in business, this way of being, is also something you see replicated in their personal life. It’s not a fluke. They are not staunch time keepers for professional meetings, but slack and always late when meeting friends. They are not well dressed and groomed for a day in the office, but sloppy and messy in their own time. The personal behaviours and habits they have used to cultivate career success, are simply an extension of the way they live their personal lives. They are living authentically…..
Am I making sense here ?
Let me give you some examples of how your personal habits and behaviours can either support or negatively affect your professional development
# The woman who rises early Vs the woman who rises late
The woman who rises early realises that time is precious, she wants to maximise her day. The woman who rises late, has a far more casual approach to time, as such she regularly wastes lots of it
# The woman who is always late Vs the woman who is always on time
The woman who is always on time appreciates that time is a precious commodity, and doesn’t like to waste yours or their own. The woman who is always late, places no real value on her time, therefore rarely organises it and wastes yours
# The woman who pays attention to detail Vs The woman who is careless
The woman who pays attention to detail notices mistakes, but also great opportunity and she has high standards. The woman who is careless, is not concerned with details or diligence and as such makes daily mistakes, and is rarely asked to take charge of anything
# The woman who controls what she says Vs the woman who speaks without thinking
The woman who controls what she says, understands the dynamics of people and appreciates that a soft word can often change a situation. The woman who speaks without thinking, has low diplomacy skills, is a poor negotiator and she finds it difficult to maintain good relationships with others
I hope I’ve given you enough examples to confirm how the behaviours that you adopt and display in your personal life, directly affect your professional life. People don’t make their judgements and decisions based solely on what you say, anyone can talk a good talk. They also make their decisions, based on who you are and the way you behave
Which of these women would YOU choose as a partner in life or in business ?
Which of those women are you?
Are you the friend who is always running late and always the last into a business meeting? Are you always the first person to voice your displeasure at the risk of another’s feelings. Are you the woman who is self-employed, but sleeps half of the day?
It’s time to do a careful evaluation of YOU, because everything starts with the self. Whilst it’s possible to achieve in business and epically fail at life. I don’t think this is the plan anyone of us here envisions for our future. Your after a life-less-ordinary- right!
So if you are not seeing the improvements in your professional life that you would like. If you’ve been stagnant or drifting for a while. Sometimes you have to get right back to basics and challenge and improve your everyday behaviours
What are the areas you’re challenged with?
Is it building relationships, managing money, or being on time ?
Your first job is to work on correcting those areas of misalignment in your life. Once these new behaviour’s start showing up in your personal life, in the things closest to you, the things that really matter and you see the results. You will begin to naturally replicate these behaviours in your business life.
Why! Because you know they work
Personal and professional development are not two separate entities, they have a symbiotic relationship. They work holistically, just like you do!
Sometimes the difference between coasting and flying in life or business, is simply a matter of a few life tweaks. The important thing to remember is any development has to start with the self. It’s all good and well to fake it, until you make it – for something’s, but sometimes you have to BE it!
Come and share in the comments how your personal and professional development work hand in hand…or maybe why they don’t!!!
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