I have a confession to make, I usually switch my computer on within 10 minutes of waking. Somewhere between a trip to the bathroom and putting the kettle on to boil, I’ll have hit the power key. I always feel a tinge of guilt that I’ve been unable to hold off until I’ve at least taken a shower, eaten breakfast, brushed my teeth, done some meditation and gone for (cough) a run.
I wake up and my mind is immediately engaged with the online world, despite the fact my physical body and spiritual self, has yet to be nurtured in any way.
The pang of shame I feel in routinely connecting to a source of energy outside myself immediately on waking, is evidence that I am out of integrity; and there is room for improvement in this area of my life.
Before you roll your eyes in disgust, I know I’m not the only person for whom their laptop, netbook, desktop or iPad is like an extension of themselves. If you have all of these; alongside an iPhone, blackberry or other android phone. You have my sympathies.
The wonderful Lori Gosselin at ‘Life, For Instance’, recently wrote a post called “Do you observe day a of rest“, and I had to hang my head down low and admit – I do not. For all the freedom and flexibility of living in Bali, being self employed and totally self governing. I still experience the paralysis of technology!
To be clear, I love this blog, I mean I LOVE IT!
And sometimes in my commitment to this blog and the relationships I’m building via this powerful medium, I forget that and experience separation/guilt/anxiety, if I’m late replying to comments and not getting out and about on other blogs often or quick enough…
Haven’t swiftly responded to tweets, retweets, emails etc, because I’m doing other high value activities, or just doing….wait for it… doing nothing! Hands up if you feel this guilt and anxiety sometimes too?
None of this stuff is life threatening and my level of engagement in the digital world is by choice and not by force, but it’s time to acknowledge that my unfettered and undisciplined approach to it all – needs to addressed.
First things first…
In Stephen Coveys 7 Habits Of Highly Successful People, he makes a very simple but profound point with habit 3: “Put first things first.”
Habit 3 is all about Life Management. “First things” are those things which you personally find of most worth. By putting ‘first things first’, you’re better able to organise and manage your time and activities in accordance with your personal priorities, therefore walking with more integrity in your life. And you know I’m all about integrity!
Do you know what YOUR personal priorities are?
If you don’t, please stop right now; get a pen and paper and start figuring that one out, seriously, it’s important.
A few of mine are: Health and fitness, meditation, journalling, swimming in the ocean, getting out amongst nature and beauty and taking pictures, being creative and nurturing relationships with the people I love.
These are all things I place as high priority and high value activities in my life as when I regularly engage in them, life is infinitely brighter, better and has far more flow. Yet despite all the freedom a girl could ask for, I’ve not been doing nearly enough of them ?
It’s time for me to really commit to those things, and I would like to invite you to partner with me in putting ’first things first’- in your life
1: Identify your personal priorities. The practices/activities that have the most worth and value to you. Usually these are things that will improve your quality of life if you make a commitment to them. Don’t go nuts, feel free to choose just 1 thing, then commit to doing that 1 thing x amount of days a week, or really go for it and commit to doing it every single day. No excuses. The key is COMMITMENT.
2:Pick a day to come ‘off the grid’ each week and indulge in a digital fast.Feel free to exercise some discretion in this, such as if you’re being creative or working on a non-work related project your passionate about. But disconnect from the internet, don’t get swept up in the time and energy vacuum that is social media, blogging or other on-line related activities.
Take a break, rest your mind, your fingers and your back. Get away from the screen. Spend some time with yourself just sitting in silence. Read, pick up a pen and actually write. Cook, clear out that cupboard that embarrases you. Put on some music and dance till you sweat, play with your children, your dog, your partner ;-). Do some yoga, meditate until you levitate.
Do whatever the hell you want, just makes sure it’s totally and utterly about rejuvenating and pleasuring you.
Putting ‘first things first’ is a declaration of self-love. It’s evidence that you recognise what is important in life. It’s also the secret of all truly happy people….but I’ll tell you more about that later…
Surprisingly, putting first things first requires alot of discipline….do you have it in you?
If you plan to join me in this commitment to put first things first, tell us what day you’ll be off the grid in the comments, so I can remember not to be offended if I tweet you and you don’t tweet me back
- Do you already put ‘first things first’..tell us how you do it….the more wisdom on how to execute this we can get… the better?
- What are your high value activities/personal priorities, and how is your life improved when you commit to them?
- Do you think it’s unreasonable or impossible to take a digital fast each week…give us your rationale why?
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It’s all love.xx
*note* I know that for many their time spent on-line is a much for business and it is for pleasure, but in all that “business doing”…don’t forget to pleasure yourself. If you took this in a smutty way, get your mind back on higher things (wink wink)
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